In my coaching and consulting work, I have discovered that there are two types of people: People are either spectators, by nature, or achievers, by nature.

It’s important to know what makes one person a spectator and what makes another an achiever; knowing the difference can determine whether someone will be successful in achieving his or her goals–or whether those aspirations will remain distant dreams and fantasies that never get realized or fulfilled.

Spectators are people who stand around, on the sidelines, watching life pass them by, unwilling to try anything new.

Achievers, on the other hand, are people who have dreams and visions of the future, and are willing to go out and take bold chances. They’re willing to put it on the line to see what they can achieve in their lives.

As Mariah Carey once sang, achievers are willing to “make it happen.”

In my experience, spectators are plagued by inaction, while achievers are committed to taking action.

Let’s explore each a little more…

How to Spot a Spectator

Spectators are typically know-it-alls; they can’t learn anything from you or anybody else because they believe they’ve already experienced everything there is to know about life.

They tend to be very skeptical, and they’re also very critical of other people who have achieved success. They make the assumption that most successful people have either cheated or somehow got lucky on their path to success.

Spectators also refuse to take chances; they need to know that every single step is laid out and that their outcomes are guaranteed before they take any kind of action–and of course we all know that in life this just doesn’t happen.  

The Signs of an Achiever

Achievers are people who are usually very goal-driven. They think about ideas in their mind based on pursuing them with a positive attitude. Achievers believe in themselves and they believe that they’re going to be able to figure out any problem that stands in their way.

The biggest thing about achievers is that they’re willing to fail; they understand that successful people became successful by overcoming failures and that failures are part of the process. Achievers learn to embrace failure.

How Spectators and Achievers Experience Life

Let’s examine how a spectator processes the world. A spectator may actually come up with a pretty good inspiring idea for their life but almost immediately they dismiss it, thinking it’s just not possible for them.

If they take it one step further, and start contemplating it, they want to know right away that there’s a clear road with a direct path the right to the target–they want to know that all the lights are green before they get started.  

As we all know, this doesn’t happen and they become imprisoned by inactivity. They can’t get started because they can’t see how they’re going to do it.

Achievers, on the other hand, look at goals in a whole different light. They think of something they want to do and it turns into a burning desire, something that they must do; then, they commit to the goal before they ever have an idea how they’re going to achieve it.

Once they commit to the goal, they start taking action. They understand there are going to be action steps that are failures and action steps that are successes; they will some really good wins along the way, and come to the understanding that everything turns into a learning experience.

They don’t necessarily know when they can achieve their goal, but they work towards it, with the understanding that this is what gives them life and adds excitement to everything that they do.

A Tale of Two Women: A Spectator and an Achiever

I recently had experiences working with both a spectator and an achiever.

The spectator contacted me for an intuitive consultation session. We met, and I proceeded to tell her about my process, expressly telling her that no two intuitive consultants work in the same manner.

During her session, I asked clarifying questions, to which she was rather tight-lipped in her responses.

At one point, she said to me, “I don’t know why I have to answer so many questions.”

Puzzled, I asked her what she was expecting.

She replied, “Well, the last intuitive I saw told me that my grandmother in Spirit was standing behind me and had a message for me. She also told me that she (the intuitive) was going to just tell me everything, and that I didn’t have to say a word.”

I gently reminded her of how I started our session by explaining to her my process. I did not tell her that I communicate with deceased loved ones on the Other Side, and I did say that my process is interactive, which requires a dialogue; it is not a monologue.

She was a spectator, in the sense that she wanted me to razzle-dazzle her and entertain her, without any participation on her part (which is perfectly fine–except that is not how I work, nor how I promote my services).

Needless to say, I ended the session and we parted ways.

The achiever was quite the opposite.

She came for a Career Code session, and was wanting to be sure she was on-path. When she came for her initial consultation, she was in the process of re-branding her business with a marketing consultant. We calculated and discussed her birth path, and I gave her some action steps that would help her become clear on her vision for the transformation of her business.

I invited her to contact me if she wanted to continue doing the work that would complement her process with her marketing consultant.

A few days later, she called me very excited. She had done the work I asked her to commit to and wanted to continue. We met for a month, each time this client making great strides in achieving the clarity she was seeking by doing the work I was encouraging her to do.

During our final session together, she showed me the results of the work with her marketing consultant, that was, in part, due to the work we had done together.

She was an achiever in the truest sense: she was committed to her process, and actively did the things she needed to do to produce the results she wanted.

Are You Ready to Become an Achiever? A 3-Step Process

Which do you think you might be: a spectator or an achiever? Are you a spectator, but you’re ready to take a more active role and change your life? If you’re ready to become an achiever, here’s a simple three-step process you can follow:

• To get started, first identify a goal that inspires and excites you. Then, take that goal and turn it into a burning desire for success.
• Second, make a commitment to achieve it at all costs. In your head, turn it into not just a possibility but a probability and an eventuality.
• Finally, take that first step. Correct and learn as you go but just know that failure as part of the process and you will eventually get there as long as you stay committed.

I hope I’ve awakened the achiever spirit within you!

Your partner in becoming an achiever,

 

 

 

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