Who Do You Blame for Your Current Situation?
The world is full of people who blame everyone under the sun for their lot in life. It’s always someone else’s fault. From the time they were a child, they never had a chance.
Their parents messed up. Or their teachers did. Or it was their boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or wife. If it hadn’t been for those people causing their life to get so messed up, then their current life would be just fine.
Blaming someone else has been going on since the beginning of time. That’s because it’s easier to blame someone else than it is to take a long, hard look in the mirror and accept responsibility for the way things are going.
The sad part is that until you do take responsibility, nothing is going to change. There are several areas in life where it’s common to push the blame for your own actions off onto someone else.
You’ll see this a lot in dating, romantic relationships, marriages – whenever there are emotions involved, the situation is ripe for the blame game. Whenever something goes wrong, someone inevitably blames the other person.
When you don’t get your emotional needs met in a relationship, it can turn into the blame game then as well. An example of the blame game in a relationship is when one partner doesn’t get the job he or she wanted.
So he or she blames the other person by saying they weren’t supportive when he or she wanted to go back to school and earn a degree that might have helped them land that position.
Instead of looking at reasons why they weren’t hired, they just look to cast blame off of themselves. Sometimes in a relationship, if there’s strain or tension, instead of looking at how you might have caused or added to that strain, you place all the blame solely on that person.
For example, a partner might say that his or her intimate life suffered neglect because the other person worked too many hours. Instead of looking for a solution to the problem such as “How can I work with that schedule to give us the time we both need?” they simply write it off as not their fault and move on.
This could be a reason why you’re having trouble in relationships if that is the case. You have to be willing to accept the responsibility for your part in whatever goes on between you and your partner.
You might have to deal with things like a partner disliking your friends or family. But look at what you might have done to cause that dislike. Did you allow your friends or family to treat your partner disrespectfully?
Talk about him or her behind their backs? Rather than looking to place blame, look for ways you can help change the negative in the relationship into a positive. Another area where people do a lot of blame placing is with their job.
They procrastinate and miss a deadline, then blame their colleagues or their boss. Or they don’t get the materials that they need to do a job in on time to meet a project deadline, so they blame the people who were supposed to get the materials to them.
Part of the blame game with a job also has to do with promotions. Whenever you don’t get a promotion that you thought you deserved, it can be easy to turn around and blame a colleague or a boss.
It can be easy to blame anything other than accepting the possibility that your own actions caused you trouble at work. Scheduling ahead can help keep you from missing deadlines.
Making sure that you have all of the materials gathered long before a project is due can help keep you on target. And looking at the reasons why someone else got promoted rather than you can help you avoid the blame game at work.
When we get disappointed because we don’t get a hope or expectation met, it can be too easy to look outwardly rather than inwardly. Plus, sometimes things happen just because that’s the way it’s supposed to be and it’s not your time yet.
But placing blame never helps anyone – least of all you.
In fact, it can work against you by allowing you to release negative energy that will come back to you.
Cleaning the house is another avenue where the blame game exists. The house doesn’t get clean because someone else makes a mess. Or it gets messy because the dog ran through the house with muddy paws right after you cleaned the carpet.
You couldn’t clean those muddy footprints because you don’t have any shampoo left in the carpet shampoo machine because someone else used it all and didn’t replace it.
You can’t vacuum because someone else sucked something up into it, burned out the belt and it hasn’t been fixed yet. You’ve had too much to do at work. Your kids have had too many outside activities.
There was a great movie on last night and you got caught up in watching that instead of cleaning like the house needed it. If only someone hadn’t left the television on.
Or if only your family member or friend hadn’t called you on the phone wanting to talk, you would have gotten the house clean. Maybe you don’t have the equipment that you need because your vacuum cleaner broke and it’s not fixed yet.
Or you don’t have any cleaning solution because the store was all sold out of the kind that you use. The house is messy because it’s not all your fault. You just can’t keep up.
While this could all be true, it’s still part of the blame game. We all do exactly what we want to do. We will make the time for what we enjoy or what we must do in order to survive.
What falls low on our priority list is easier to blame others for. Maybe you can’t ever find the time to relax because you’re too busy working or taking care of the house.
Or perhaps you have too many family responsibilities. You’re running children to and from activities or taking care of elderly parents. You might be having health problems or financial problems and you don’t ever feel that it’s your fault.
It’s always someone else’s fault that you find yourself in the position that you’re in.
If you want the Law of Attraction (LoA) to work for you, then you have to stop pointing fingers. If your relationships aren’t working, don’t point at your partner or your family members or your friends.
When your job isn’t going well, don’t look to your colleagues, suppliers or boss to blame. The times the house is a wreck, your health is bad and your finances are a mess, take a hard look at how you’re contributing to letting these issues be a part of your life.
While the LoA does help to attract good things to your life, you have to take personal responsibility for the things that are off-kilter right now. For the relationships, figure out what it is that you’re doing wrong.
Stop blaming someone else if you’re miserable in a relationship. No one can make you unhappy without your permission. No one else has the power to upset you or as many people seem to think to “ruin” your life.
That’s power you give them by not accepting personal responsibility. What you have to do with relationships is to figure out what’s going wrong. What’s upsetting you?
Next, you look for the solution. If there is no solution that you can see, you can either reach out to a third party for advice or help or put the brakes on that relationship.
At work, plan ahead so that the blame game stops. Put the responsibility for getting your work done squarely on your shoulders and have a backup plan for when someone else’s issue can affect your work.
If you have trouble keeping your home neat and organized, schedule a time to clean it and don’t let anything but an emergency distract you from that time. Or, you can hire a cleaning service.
Even if you hire someone, you’re still taking responsibility and that’s a good thing. Find time to relax by adding that to your schedule the same way that you would schedule a doctor or dentist appointment.
You’re making an appointment with yourself. Take that time to go to the movies, go for a walk, or sit quietly and listen to your favorite music, but make the time to relax because it helps reduce stress.
Relaxed people also find it easier to attract relaxation to their lives. If your health is suffering and it’s because of some lifestyle habits you have that aren’t conducive toward good health, then quit them.
Make small changes to your diet, exercise, and get involved in activities that promote good health. Problems with finances can cause us to be more negative than positive.
If you’re struggling on this end, there’s one of two ways to fix it. You must either earn more or spend less. If you’re tapped out because you’ve lived above your means for too long, then you need to stop spending, take on a part time job along with the one you have and work to pay off your bills.
While the LoA will attract financial wealth to you, it doesn’t just work because you want it to.
The Law of Attraction works because you’re the driving force behind it.
